Not ‘giving up’: is there another way to describe accepting how I look as I age?

If ‘giving up’ doesn’t sit right, try thinking about it as getting something back: time, money, energy

• Each month, Ask Ugly columnist Jessica DeFino answers a reader question about beauty culture

Hi Ugly,

I recently chatted with a middle-aged co-worker about her friend who is unhappy being single and thinks she should lose weight. As Gen X women growing up in the 1980s, our biggest concern was weight and calorie counting to control it (now we can add wrinkles, yellow teeth and odd body hair to the list).

My father had plastic surgery. Now he wants me and my mother to get work done

How should I be styling my pubic hair?

How do I deal with imperfection?

I want to ignore beauty culture. But I’ll never get anywhere if I don’t look a certain way