‘Cheating means the end,’ and eight other relationship myths ruining your love life

Think you need an initial spark, arguing is a no-no or separate beds mean it’s over? Think again, say the experts

For Toby Ingham, psychotherapist and author of How to Improve Emotional Stability, referring to that sought-after spark as “chemistry” is an interesting analogy. “In dating, it tends to describe an immediate reaction, whereas lots of chemical reactions take time,” he says.