Should I tell my husband I want to sell our brand-new dream home? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Big building projects bring financial and emotional pressures, but it’s important to work out why it has triggered such strong feelings for you

My husband and I have just built our dream house. After a year of planning and months of building, the builders have left and we can finally live there. The work was incredibly stressful, we spent a lot more than planned, and it triggered an anxiety disorder that I’m now struggling with.

The building work is ostensibly over, but there’s still work to do and money to spend to make the house fully a home, and I’m exhausted and depressed by that. Although we have an impressive house, we are also financially more stretched, which plays on my mind. But mostly it’s the feeling of the house – I don’t like its vibe. I don’t feel at home here.