I haven’t told my parents I have cancer, as I fear they will say something hurtful | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

The diagnosis may have brought up feelings of anger and unfairness about the care you didn’t receive as a child. Could your brother offer you solace and support?

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Last year, I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. I have told a few people, but not my family, other than my brother, and I don’t know if I should. They live abroad.

I have a lot of unresolved childhood issues, which I’ve mostly been able to put aside. But the diagnosis is making it harder to deal with the hurt, resentment and unfairness of it all.